“Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death.” - Rumi
Intuition
I have always been interested in the things we cannot see, hear, feel, smell or taste. The things that are out of reach of our limited senses. I have always felt that there is a sense or a number of senses that aren't obvious to us as humans.
Think of it like this, if humans had no sense of smell we would not think smells existed. If only one person has a sense of smell we would not understand what it was. No matter how much they tried to explain it to us we could not really understand because we don't really have anything to compare it to. We wouldn't be convinced that they could smell because it would seem far fetched. The world could be full of smells but we would not know it because we could not smell them.
If people have a sense of instinct they may not really believe it to be real. When they have their own experience of instinct they become more convinced. If they could learn to draw on their sense of instinct at any time then they could truly believe they have this sense.
In modern society we have been fed a lot of information over the years. We are ridiculed for our beliefs and find it's easier to go along with the status quo then rock the boat. Many people have experienced moments of clarity, so they may have some belief but because there is so much information being thrown at them, they tend to rely on the five senses that they know and trust.
Perhaps all this noise has made us lose our sense of intuition. Maybe the only way to tap into this sense is to be quiet. Even religions bombard us with a lot of information but don't really teach us how to pray in a successful way.
This is how I think instinct works for us beginners. Say we look at someone and we get a sense that that person might be gay, married, sick, lying or whatever. This information might be coming to us out of thin air so we don't really know it to be true. We choose to believe their cover story instead of the truth because they tell us they are straight, separated or fine, etc. We trust our ears and eyes.
This is where we go astray, even if we don't really know the truth we should suspend judgement until it is actually revealed to us. We don't usually see what we aren't looking for. If you just let the information be a possibility, we will be open to learning more information. We have been fed B.S. for so long and so often we have lost touch with our instinct.
I always ask (the universe) to reveal the whole truth to me. Then I just forget about it and wait. Often then it will be revealed to my other senses like sight or touch.
Everyone has had this experience. They lose their keys. They frantically look for their keys. They relax, give up and decide to take the spare keys and look later. They grab their sweater and reveal the keys underneath the sweater, or some variation of this. The experience of instinct is similar but on a bigger scale. All information can be revealed to you if you want it.
Trust is overrated in many areas of our lives. We are so often told trust is everything in relationships. I'm afraid I do not hold this popular theory. In my mind trust is earned and the truth needs to be revealed.
Much of our time is spent thinking about past events that have been embarrassing, painful or unfair. We hold grudges and blame people for our unfortunate experiences. Our minds are consumed with these negative thoughts. This behavior does not serve us in this moment and does not help us achieve our desires in the future.
Letting go is an important part of moving on and moving up. The anger and regret is causing us pain again and again as we re-live the past. It also holds us back from being our best selves. We have all heard the saying "The best revenge is living well". This is so true. By living well I mean holding thoughts of happiness, success, love, beauty and fun. Being happy is the first step in "living well".
We forgive for ourselves. In fact we do everything for ourselves in some way. So doing what works is a really good idea. When we forgive we set ourselves free to live an awesome life. The second we change our focus and decide never to re-run the bad stuff, is the second our lives become better. Good things and experiences will start to show up all around us.
If you forgive someone, you will have to decide if you are going to let them into your life again or not. Just remember you have learned something. Be very aware of what you have learned. Is this person competitive, mean spirited, or motivated by jealousy. Try to figure out what motivated their bad behavior. Then protect yourself. Be courteous but don't reveal too much. Keep your time together short and sweet, but don't allow them to hurt you again.
The more you know the better off you will be. If you know that they can't be trusted just keep your cards close to your chest and go about living your dreams. Knowing the tools they use to cut you down , the easier it will be to put up your shield. Simply think about what they did to cause the damage. People are creatures of habit. For example if they spread lies or sabotaged other relationships you can out smart them. Think of it as a fun game, then pat yourself on the back when you figure it out. If they can't mess with you they will move on to an easier target. Even family members can be less of a pain if you don't trust the untrustworthy. Most people really don't change all that much. Learn to keep it light and fluffy.
Some people have simply been in your life far longer than they deserve to be.
Forgive yourself for not seeing the truth before you got hurt. Forgive yourself because you didn't know then what you know now. Be kind to yourself and ask yourself to be smarter from now on. Ask your instinct to be aware of danger and keep you safe from now on. If you get information or feelings that someone is going to mess with your life, be grateful that you won't be gullible any more. Letting go of the past means living a new and better future.
When you let go, you are letting go of the feelings that are eating you up. Let go of the anger. Let go of the hurt. Let go of wishing the past was different. Let go of all the details, the gossip and the repetitive thought patterns. Let go of any negative feelings of any kind.
Pat yourself on the back, you are making the first step towards living an awesome life. If you find yourself slipping back into the anger, simple catch yourself and replace those thoughts with fabulous dreams of a peaceful and happy existence.
You're going to do great. Have a great day. Much love.
